So you’re still living the single life while it seems like all your friends are joining the couples club, and you’d like to join them too but just aren’t sure how you to go about attracting a soul mate. Well you don’t need to cave into peer pressure, and you don’t need to make any big changes to your life to talk to the right person. There’s just a few basic things you can do that will attract anyone you wish to talk to, whether you’re meeting them through an online dating service or just happen to bump into them in a coffee shop or club.
The first thing you should do is make sure you are clean and use good hygiene, because one of the biggest turn-offs to meeting anyone is a bad smell from not showering, or bad breath. Take the time to shower and use deodorant. If you’re a man and you have a beard, you should shave it or trim it to look attractive. If you’re a lady, you’re probably a little more conscientious about your looks, and you don’t need to get the latest, hottest Maybelline products to blow a man away, but take a little time to do your hair or clean your face just enough to be presentable. And it doesn’t take fancy clothes to be attractive, just something on the nicer end of casual, unless of course you have a stylish faded jeans preference that might bring out your inner country self, if that’s your niche.
A Normal Ice Breaker
When you find someone to talk to, don’t try a cheesy pick-up line out of a book or magazine, just say something normal like “Hi, how are you doing?” You don’t have to introduce your name right away, but maybe ask them if they are enjoying the atmosphere of the place you’re in, or how their day has been going. Just keep it authentic for starters so that you can engage in a real conversation with them, and let it flow from there.
Confidence Is Key
The most important thing of all is just confidence. As the two of you start discussing what it is you do, whether it’s your job, or your favorite recreational activity, be confident in what you’re talking about. Don’t exaggerate or attempt to overly sugarcoat your life or job salary, but come across as happy about it, while at the same time being honest about it. A man or a woman who is confident in themselves and happy and smiling, is always going to be very attractive to the other person.
A bump in the road doesn’t have to send the whole van into the ditch. Let’s consider the possibility of a relationship sent into turmoil by a challenged romantic experience being had by either one of both of the partners. After having a look at some of the most common types of intimacy problems couples tend to experience, you’ll be more prepared to avoid such issues in your own love life.
1. Lack of Initial Interest: Sometimes relationships start out of convenience and one day you both feel like different people entirely. If you lack that memory of sexual spark or it was never there, it can spell disaster for you in bed. Try spicing it up or going for a short break. This can be a way to prevent a full break up.
2. Sexual Dysfunction: If either partner is prevented from being themselves fully or fully enjoying their experience as a result of a medical or psychological sexual dysfunction, there are thankfully a plethora of treatments available to address such problems. Make an appointment with your regular doctor to begin discussing these issues.
3. Infidelity: Whether it was a one-time mistake or a regular habit, a cheating partner can wreck the love life at home. If one of you is “getting your kicks” on your own time, what is the likelihood that you and your partner will be in the mood at the same time? Furthermore, the guilt of knowing that you are cheating can be enough to crush a relationship from an intimacy perspective, even if the infidelity is never found out.
4. Body Changes: People change shape over time and also age as well. This can be a positive, neutral or sometimes negative contributor to the enjoyability of your sexual experiences with your partner. Being mindful of how your body is changing and trying to make yourself as sexy and attractive to your partner as possible, over time, is the best approach to long-term sexual health.
5. Boredom: Over long periods of time, routine can set in, thus killing any degree of excitement or spontaneity that may have once existed in your relationship. the way to combat this boredom from creeping in is to always be communicating in the bedroom and discussing new things or new ways of doing the same thing. Variety is the spice of life, so use variety to keep from getting bored.
6. Lack of Exploration: The other side of the boredom coin, a lack of exploration can mean not trying new positions or not trying to things like dress up or toys. Often you don’t know you’re bored until you start catching yourself acting boring. Don’t be a lump on the log.
7. Monotonous Setting: Switch up the location of love making and see it get more exciting immediately. The new sights, sounds and materials around your bodies during the primal deed will help set different and unique moods, guaranteed to keep your love life exciting and fun.
Sometimes the problem isn’t going away but nothing new is being done to address what is wrong. It’s actually very often quite difficult for a couple to not even know what is wrong. Referencing the above list and then reading the available solutions to each particular problem, should be a great start, if not all a couple needs to get out of the ditch of low intimacy.
Does your love life feel a bit bland? Worry not. Here’s a selection of great ways to turn that sex life right around and get it purring like a kitty.
5 Sexy Secret Moves
Smacking: If your relationship hasn’t wandered into any form of BSDM, it isn’t too late to try. There’s a fine middle ground between masks, chains and burning wax and simple, playful smacking. If you are giving it to her from behind, consider trying to plant an open-palm on your lady’s behind. If you pique her interest, you should be able to tell by her reaction.
No Hands: A fun and definitely different game that you absolutely must try on your first dry spell is a no-hands game. Start out the foreplay fully undressed and not touching. Desire to be in lovemaking without using hands until both of you are climaxed and happy.
Dress-Up: While it may be too silly for some people, it’s definitely a way to have fun, do something new and perhaps even get out of your skin. Dressing up can be as simple as wearing a mask or a Halloween costume if your creativity is feeling stuck.
Toys: Kids have fun playing with toys all day, and by that logic, perhaps adults should try to do the same. Special, sexy toys can create the effect of bringing “somebody new” into the equation, but with a far lower chance of any jealously.
Release Doubt: Sometimes what is holding back two sexual partners from feeling really comfortable and in the moment is self-doubt and judgment. Release all forms of doubt and resistance and simply feel and exist in the moment the next time you make love. The experience should be notably better!
If your love life has a lot more to offer than just moans, scratches and screams, it would be wise to put in a little effort when you and your lover are caught up in the midst of a dry spell. Love-making shouldn’t ever feel like work, but it isn’t really ever going to if you go into the bedroom with a few new ideas up your sleeve every once in awhile.
If you, or somebody you know, is in the throes of a divorce, you may have wondered what actually causes divorces. It turns out that there is a variety of possible causes, however, these five are among the most common.
Lack of Intimacy: Sometimes, the same arrangement of sticks as before doesn’t create the same fire. Perhaps the wind has changed direction or the flame isn’t as bright as it once was. Regardless of the specific details, if either or both parties to a marriage lose attraction for the other, it can spell disaster for the marriage’s prospects.
Poor Finances: Bills can crush the spirit of the individual in just the same way that it can crush the heart of a marriage. If you and your sweetie can find a few hundred more a month in earnings or savings, you might be able to set the marriage on a straight path back towards harmony.
Infidelity: We have to add this cause for divorce to our list if only to address that it is not even close to being one of the leading causes of divorce. Infidelity does happen — and it happens on both sides of the bed. However, it isn’t in every relationship and it isn’t even one of the top causes of divorce.
Trust: More common than actual infidelity are issues of trust. Jealousy and trust are opposite sides of the same coin and if jealousy is had, trust is not.
Poor Connection: Sometimes, there’s no infidelity, the trust is great and the intimacy is perfect — yet, something remains missing. The usual culprit is the simple bond that exists often between great friends. If you don’t genuinely love who that person is and what makes them who they are, then it could be foreshadowing for where the marriage might go.
Many people would commonly expect that cheating is one of the most common causes of a marriage ending in divorce. Frankly, that just isn’t the case. It makes our list simply to highlight this fact and to also portray the honesty of infidelity happening on occasion. Generally speaking, it is more about the connections between the partners in the marriage. Are you both being communicative, vocal and open to hearing other perspectives? Patience and perspective are two great mantras to have in mind when endeavoring to work on a relationship. However, at the same time, if you feel like you’re in over your head, there’s never any shame in quitting a game you can’t see yourself ever winning.